Parsha Chaya Sarah – Eretz Yisrael, going beyond yourself and finding Love
Welcome to another exciting Parsha. As Rabbi Nachman said – the Parsha is about you and me. It Is Chaya Parsha and our Parsha starts off with the story how Avraham purchased the cave and Field in Hebron. This is the birthplace of people. This shows our historical right and connection to Hebron. The EU, the Democrats UNESCO, social media and the Arabs are trying to rewrite history. So let's use out weekly meeting with Shabbat to make Torah - our connection to the truth, our guidebook relevant to us. Let's learn and connect to what has kept the Jewish people alive and vibrant over the last 2000 years and more It is poignant that this week.
So, we thank President Trump who by no coincidence in the week Parsha Chaya who recognized our (obvious) rights to our ancient Homeland – Judea & Samaria (which incorrectly referred to as the West Bank). No, it is not the West Bank. It Judea the birthplace as this powerful video of Reb Shlomo Shows.
A Miracle Zivug for Yitzchak – Reb Shlomo
Everyone generation is special, but everybody knows, we are living in a very special time. The question is, what is so special about the times we are living in?
Everybody knows, this Shabbos we are learning that Eliezer is looking for a wife for Yitzchak. He made for himself a sing. He will stand by the well and if a girl comes and he will ask her for water, and she will say ' not only will I give you, but let me have the honor to also give water to your camels', she's the one.
Now the Medrash says that he say this little girl of three going down to the well, and the well was very deep. Eliezer saw, that she doesn't even have to go down all the steps to get the water. The moment she went down the first step, all the water from the well came up to greet her. Obviously, this means that as young as she is, she is very special and holy girl.
So everyone is asking, after seeing something like that, why would you have any question as to who the right girl is. This must be the girl for Yitzchak Avinu. A girl that is so holy that the water is greeting her, why is it that Rivkah wanting to give water to the camels is deeper than the miracle of water coming up to greet Rivkah?
Let me ask you a deeper question. According to the Medrash, this whole story took place Friday afternoon. Imagine, after she gives Eliezer some water, she would have said 'I'm sorry, I can give you water but I don't have time for the camels.' Who cares if she gives water to the camels? Isn't she holy enough based on t what took place before?
Let me share with you one more thing.
Avraham Avinu's life was filled with miracles. He was through into the fire, and spent three days in there, eventually coming out of it. He had a son at 99. In the wars that he fought with Eliezer against the other kings there were miracles upon miracles. Yitzchak Avinu? I'm sure he was surrounded by miracles day and night, but when it comes to Yitzchak Avinu, the torah doesn't really tell us about miracles.
So what's going on here? And here I want you to open your hearts.
There are G-d miracles and there are Israel miracles.
His miracles and our miracles.
Avraham is teaching the world that there is one G-d, and G-d can do anything. You can be in a fire for three days and you can come out. G-d can give you a baby when you are one hundred. Yitzchak's thing in the world is Jewish miracles. A man of 37 is ready to die for G-d a million times. Do you know what kind of girl he was looking for? He wasn't looking for w girl who is holy enough that the water comes to greet her. He wants to see if she is a miracle worker, but what type of miracle worker? Someone asks her for a glass of water and she says 'can I please have the honor of also giving water to your camels?'
Friends, what we need today is 'us' miracles.
Let me tell you, the truth is, every Jew who is holding out in Israel, it's not G-d's miracle - it's a Jewish miracle.
I just want to give you and me and all of us strengths, lets continue to perform great miracles. Any Jew in the world who is still a Jew today is a miracle. Not G-d's miracle, our miracle. A Jew who still believes that one day the whole world will be filled with peace - it's our miracle. It's a Yitzchak Avinu miracle.
A tzaddik, is someone who is doing everything right, walking in G-d's path, that's maybe a little bit G-d's miracle. A person who suddenly changes his whole life, a ba'al tshuvah- that's a Jewish miracle. That a Jew wants so much to be a Jew, and is ready to give up everything in the world.
So I want to bless you and me and all of us. We should be priviliged to see all these holy miracles happening, until one day G-d will have to do one more miracle, but at that time friends... it will be a combined miracle.
When Mashiach is coming, let it be tonight.
Ve'eineiu Tire'na Malchutecha
Yitzchak Avinu - Post Akeida
There are two different levels in serving G-d.
One level is that through my Avodas Hashem, through my serving G-d the world should know there is one G-d. The other level is where it has nothing to do with the world, it's just me and G-d. So to speak, the world doesn’t exist. There is only one G-d, that’s it. This is also a very high level.
These two levels are the basic difference between Avraham and Yitzchak. Avraham Avinu is always thinking about how he wants the world to know there is one G-d. For Yitzchak there is no world, just him and G-d. But Yitzchak is so much aware of the presence of G-d. Yitzchak is all about that there is only one G-d, so much so that Yitzchak doesn’t pray for anything. Yitzchak is not on the level to ask G-d for something, because if G-d wants to give it to me - He gives it to me.
Everyone knows that the emanation of Yitzchak is Gevurah, to fear and be in awe before G-d. When Eliezer brought Rivkah to Yitzchak it says ‘and he brought her to his tent and he loved her'. Strange, suddenly Yitzhak comes to the level of Ahava and starts to connect with love? What happened to Yitzchak?
I’m sure Avraham Avinu prayed for Yitzchak, but the Torah never says openly that Avraham and Sarah prayed for children. The first one who mamesh prays for children is Yitzchak. Yitzchak? Isn’t Yitzchak the one who says that if G-d wants me to have something he will give it to me? Yitzchak shouldn’t even pray. When did he learn how to pray? The answer is that something happened to Yitzchak.
After the Akeida Yitzchak Avinu learns how to reach beyond himself.
Except from Reb Shlomo Brodt z”l Parshas Chayei Sarah
We dedicate today's learning to all our brothers and sisters who are seeking their soul-mates; may the merit of Yitzchak and Rivkah help them find one-another, quickly, b'simcha. May we merit the complete redemption quickly in our days, Amen.
Have a wonderful Shabbos
THE RAINS OF MAR-CHESHVAN
B"H it is thundering and lightning and raining and pouring here in Eretz Yisrael. May it always be גשמי ברכה - rains of blessing! This
Shabbos we will bless the new month of Kislev and soon we will be celbrating Channukah בס"ד. It will be Rosh Chodesh on Thurs and Fri this coming week. Chodesh Tov
Reb Tzaddok Ha-Kohen of Lublin teaches that the rains of Mar Cheshvan are reminding us to see to it that we actualize the commitments we made to Torah learning, as we danced with the Torah on Simchas Torah. "Ain mayim elah Torah", 'water' represents Torah, for just like water flows from a higher place to a lower one so too the holy Torah comes from a higher place and flows down to us. "Ya'arof kamatar likchi - let My teachings come down like a fine rain". So may the words of Torah. Being at one with the Hashem includes being at one with the physical world, and so when it rains we can meditate on the words of Torah as droplets of rain nourishing our souls, like the drops of rain that are nourishing the trees and plants of the new season.
A Good Shabbos message from Avraham
Words can hardly express the depth of blessing of this first month at Chazon Shlomo. I feel as if HaShem has granted me a tremendous gift, through the teachers and organizers of the Yeshiva, to grow in Torah, to connect my mind with my heart, to serve the Holy One in truth. Each one of the students here is unique and brilliant in their own way, and together we are building a community dedicated to Torah, Tefila, and Gemilit Hasadim. Every day we learn Chassidut, Mishnayot, Halacha, and Gemara intensively, and our shiurim and chevrutot are so joyful that they often carry us through the lunch hour or late into the night. We sing together, we hold each other accountable to high standards of kindness, and we daven for the realization of our people, the sanctification of our lives, and the unification of HaShem's name. We wish everyone a Shabbos of peace, blessing, and connection
‘Thirty Days Before The Holiday’
GETTING READY FOR CHANNUKAH
In the Shulchan Aruch, the Code of Jewish Law, we learn that "thirty days before the holiday we ask and seek [to understand] the halachot of the holiday". Simply speaking there is so much to learn and to know that we cannot possibly be ready for the holiday unless we start learning about it a month in advance. The Chassidic masters explain that there are two aspects to the study of Halacha, [usually translated as] Jewish Law. Halacha teaches us what we are supposed to do, what is permissible and what is forbidden. The root of the word "Halacha" is 'hei' - 'lamed' – 'chaf'. 'La-lechet' (infinitive) means 'to go'. Halacha reveals both the practical and conceptual 'pathway' for living life in accordance with Hashem's will. Halacha also points toward the inner transformations that the Torah wants us to accomplish within ourselves. Halacha teaches us not only what to do, but also what and how to be.
In celebrating our holy days, we are celebrating and commemorating important events that took place a long time ago in our history, as they come around each year at specific times, but that is not all. Chassidus explains that the same miraculous Divine emanations that Hashem revealed at those special times in the past, are revealed once again each year, as each holiday arrives. Thus during each holiday we are once again given the opportunity to access or connect with the special holy gift of the miraculous emanation that Hashem revealed to us 'in those days at this time'. In order to accomplish this we need to prepare ourselves, therefore, "Thirty days before the holiday we ask [pray] and seek to know 'the ways' of the holiday."
In one month from now we will b'ezrat Hashem be celebrating Channukah, and so the time for getting ready has arrived. In this week's parsha we learn about the difference between 'living' our lives vs. just biding our time or 'killing time' in this world. Sarah Imeinu 'lived' her life, so did Avraham Avinu. All her years were equally good; from the best of them to the most difficult of them, she 'lived' each day, each year. To 'live' our lives we need light; not the light of the Greeks which illuminates only the exterior, but rather we need the light of the Torah, the Or Ganuz, the Hidden Light that Hashem created on the first day of Creation. This light shines into us and shines from within. This is the light of Channukah; b'ezrat Hashem we will prepare ourselves to receive this light over the next few weeks.
Our parsha this week is called CHAYEI SARAH – THE LIFE OF SARAH:
וַיִּהְיוּ חַיֵּי שָׂרָה, מֵאָה שָׁנָה וְעֶשְׂרִים שָׁנָה וְשֶׁבַע שָׁנִים--שְׁנֵי חַיֵּי שָׂרָה
"Va'yi'he'yu chayei Sarah, meyah shanah, v'esrim shanah, v'shevah shanim, "And the days of Sara’s life were, one hundred years and twenty years and seven years, THE YEARS OF THE LIFE OF SARAH". (Gen. 23:1)
TO REALLY LIVE EACH DAY – real Jewish renewal
[We once asked Reb Shlomo zt”l, who would be our Rebbes if ‘chas v’shalom Moshiach was not yet here while he and the Lubavitcher Rebbe were still alive? His answer was that we were entering a period without Rebbes who could speak to and for all of Israel and that our salvation would depend on us; that there was no other way, other than to be best friends!
An old friend in Montreal used to say, “What does a friend owe a friend? Friendship!!!”
We must learn how to be true friends. Not that we don’t know what it means to be a true friend. We all know what kind of love and friendship we want. We must learn to understand that every obstacle I face in being best friends, is there to teach me something very important about myself and the work I need to do to actualize my best, to fulfill my soul’s purpose and mission in this world; and ‘I’ must do the work!
We absolutely have to believe that Hashem trusts us to do our best each day. We have to believe in ourselves and in each other: know that every one of us has tremendous worth and potential beyond our worldly imagination ….
the following learning includes suggested strategies for achieving renewal and ownership of each day of our lives… these require ongoing effort and commitment …. the holy Piaseczner Rebbe strongly advised the formation of small groups of sincere friends, committed to getting together once a week to discuss their ideals and progress, and to provide one another with the support and encouragement towards actualizing their highest ideals… we would like to hear from you – are you already [or considering] implementing any of the mentioned strategies? do you have others that you would like to suggest? how can we be of help? SHABBAT SHALOM]
Note the repetition of the words 'Chayei Sarah' at the opening and closing of the verse. After first emphasizing 'Chayei Sarah'... the LIFE of SARAH. Though the Torah is telling us about Sarah's 'petirah' –the departure of her soul to Olam Habah- the emphasis is on the LIFE OF SARAH! Rashi says that every one of Sarah's years was considered good. Despite the fact that she was childless for most of her life, and though she had faced many severe hardships, all the years of her life were "good."
Further in the parsha it says "And Avraham was old, advanced in years, and Hashem had blessed Avraham with everything." (Bereishis 24:1) The phrase "ba ba-yamim" is not easy to translate. Literally it would translate as – come in days. According to the Zohar and the Chassidic commentaries "ba ba-yamim," expresses how Avraham 'lived' his life. Avraham and Sarah 'lived' each day of their lives with purpose. They experienced newness and renewal each day. All the Chassidic masters' commentaries on this parsha, focus on the importance of "hitchadshut" – self-renewal. Renewal is understood as finding and experiencing the newness of Hashem's life energy each day, doing each mitzvah each act of loving kindness, learning each word of Torah with excitement and vitality, as if it was the 'first time'.
Reb Shlomo zt"l was always seeking to find and sing the Shir Chadash – the 'new song' - the great new song that the whole world is waiting for us to sing. The question is "How are we to do this?" Let us first understand "what is the meaning of renewal?" In Hebrew the word is "hit-chadshut" – to make new again. Renewal does not mean to 'replace' the old with something new, for this would only be a momentary solution, and hence the 'new' is doomed and destined to become 'old'.
ABOVE - ALL IS NEW
King Solomon said "ain kol chadash thachat ha-shemesh" – there is nothing new under the sun! (Kohelet ) The Sfas Emes teaches that his holy grandfather the Chidushei Ha-rim explained that 'under the sun' there is nothing new, everything is old or becomes old. But 'above the sun' –above nature- all is new! King David said, "Forever, Hashem, your words stand firm in the heavens." (Psalms 119:89) The Baal Shem Tov explained that the very words and letters of the ten creative utterances continuously stand firmly in the heavens. Hashem is constantly saying, "Let there be light," etc. Hashem is constantly renewing the Creation, as we say in our daily prayers, "In His goodness, He renews each day the work of Creation." (In the second book of the Tanya, Shaar Ha-yichud V'ha-emmunah, the Alter Rebbe explains this at length.) If we can attach ourselves to 'above the sun', then we can experience renewal each day. Again we ask, "How are we to do this?"
To attain self-renewal is a process. There are many lessons to be learned and a lot of work is required. The important thing is to remember that we can accomplish this, provided that we are willing to do the work. The following are but a few of the many teachings of the Chassidic masters on acquiring renewal. One should learn as much one can about the process, and wisely choose the strategies that are personally most appropriate and apply them.
VALUE, APPRECIATE AND TAKE POSSESSION
The Sfas Emes teaches in the name of the holy Zohar that Avraham Avinu 'acquired' every experience of spiritual arousal and enlightenment and brought them along with him into his old age. He also was in possession of these when he arrived in heaven. Such experiences were created for him each day of his life, and they are available to us as well. In fact Hashem desires to enlighten us all the time. So why are we old?
The problem is, as the Sfas Emes suggests, that when we experience such moments of holy awakenings, we sadly choose to let go of them. A window, a gateway to the spiritual world of newness and renewal 'above the sun' is opened and instead we prefer to drown in the world of nature 'below the sun'.
If we truly want to 'live' anew each day, we must cherish those special moments of enlightenment. We must stay with them, value them and acquire them. Imagine that as you are taking a walk and suddenly you find some very beautiful and precious gems right in front of you (and they don't belong to anyone). Wouldn't you happily stop to pick them up and take them into your possession? Wouldn't you be aware and thankful that these will afford you new opportunities, otherwise unattainable? Likewise when aroused spiritually by a beautiful teaching, by a kind deed, by an inspiring song – appreciate it, value it and take possession of it. It is a gift from Hashem.
ATTACH YOURSELF TO THE MOST HIGH
Each word of Torah, each mitzvah contains supernal light. When doing a mitzvah, when studying Torah. Take a moment to meditate on this. You are now about to bring Hashem's supernal light into this world. Attach yourself to this light and let it be attached to you.
REMEMBER AND DO NOT FORGET
The Sfas Emes continues and says that each enlightenment, each new and deep understanding of Torah must be firmly established in our memory and remembered as new. We forget because we don't care enough about it, so we don't make the effort to remember. Remembering requires effort.
SEEK THE NEW; PRAY FOR IT
There is always newness and renewal available, taught the Chidushei Ha-rim. We need to learn with an eagerness to find the newness in the words of the Torah. King David prayed, "Unveil my eyes, that I may behold wonders from Your Torah." (Psalms 119:18) The Torah is full of secrets, infinitely so. We must do all that we can to be worthy that Hashem should reveal some of them to us; we must truly daaven for this. It is a very good practice to say a prayer before and after learning Torah.
SERVE HASHEM WITH JOY
We have learned about the importance of praying and learning with joy many many times. We all know how important it is ... so "don't be stingy with your soul! Nourish it."
WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE?
"If your life's aim is to serve G-d with constant improvement and to reach age seventy beyond your Bar-Mitzvah, then here is the thing to do:
Each year, clarify a goal and envision the actualized "you" of the next year. Visualize who this "you" will be: his attainments ... his daily life ... his character and his inner essence. Use this envisioned "you" also as a gauge to know how far you still have to go. Is your present daily progress enough to create the reality of that envisioned future "you"?
But if next year comes and you have not actualized that "you," it is as if your life has been cut short. The new "you" was aborted, it is not alive now, you are still an old "you" of perhaps years ago.
This is the meaning of "And Avraham was old, advanced in years" (Bereishis 24:1): the Avraham of this year was the advanced Avraham of this year, not the Avraham of the past."
(To Heal The Soul: The Spiritual Journal of a Chassidic Master, Rebbe Kalonymus Kalman Shapira. p.3)
TO BE HUMBLE OF SPIRIT BEFORE ALL MEN Avot4:1 – AND TRUE SELF-ESTEEM
The Alter Rebbe begins chap. 30 of the Tanya with these words: “… a person must resolve in his heart, to fulfill the instruction of our Rabbis, of blessed memory: “And be humble of spirit before all men.”
This you must BE in true sincerity, in the presence of ANY individual, even in the presence of the most worthless of worthless men.”
In this chapter the Alter Rebbe discusses how to be so; how can you truly be so, especially when we are faced with a worthless of the worthless person? What about my self-esteem? The truth is that there is no contradiction between true humility and self-esteem.
Rav Steinsaltz in his sefer, The Long Shorter Way explains that the issue is not to compare myself/yourself to someone else, but rather to our own selves. It is a strict rule in the Mishna Avot 2:4, “Judge not thy fellow, until thou art come to his place.” There are so many personal factors in our inner make-up and life predicaments, that you are never exactly in the place of another, therefore, as Reb Shlomo always would say “you never know, you’ll never know.” Besides that, the deeper problem inherent in comparing ourselves to others is the reason behind why we do this. Why do we do this? Why do we think we need to do this? Does my self-esteem really depend on being better than someone else?
If I’m looking down at someone else, it is because I am lacking in true self-esteem- because I have lost respect for my higher self, because I am not a true ‘warrior’, willing to engage all my resources and talents and energies to living and manifesting the truth of my holy soul joyously, therefore I foolishly try to find solace in stupidly judging others and thinking that I am better than so and so.
Rebbe Nachman always emphasized, do not despair – in other words, do not give up on your true self esteem. Know that the highest thing is to serve Hashem and to bond with Him – just like He Just like Hashem values you, it is your highest honor to value your ‘highest deepest own self’ and to value even the most worthless of worthless yid, because “you never know, you’ll never know!”
And we must never forget how the holy Piaseczner Rebbe would teach his students, again and again, throughout the Shabbos meal – “Remember kinderlach, ‘di greste zach in di velt’- the greatest thing in the world, ‘iz tzu teen yenem a toiveh’- is to do a favor for another.” Let’s all do ourselves and one another a real favor and not give-in to false self-esteem.
"It will be that before they call I will answer. . ." (Isaiah 65:24)
Praying, Daavening, Pouring Your Heart Out To Hashem: Yitzchak and Rivkah
"It will be that before they call I will answer. . ." (Isaiah 65:24)
24:63: Yitzchok went out to meditate/talk in the field towards evening.
Rashi: Verse 63: To meditate. A term for prayer, as in, "He pours out his prayer." Tehillim 102:1
The Talmud teaches that from the above verse we learn that it was Yitzchak Avinu who first established the afternoon Mincha prayer. One might ask, "what inspired him to 'go out' into the field and pray, and why particularly now"?
In the sefer Mei Hashiloach, The Ishbitzer Rebbe says that Yitzchak Avinu's major attribute was fear and awe of Hashem, he generally was not an outgoing individual like his father Avraham Avinu, whose primary attribute was 'Chessed' – outgoing loving kindness. Rather than 'go out' and do something that he was not completely sure of, Yitzchak 'sat' in the land of the Negev- dry of all desires.
Suddenly we find that Yitzchak Avinu was inspired by Hashem to 'go out' and seek his soul-mate, thinking and realizing that the world was not created to be left unsettled. Yet he was unsure and he feared to actively seek a wife, so he went out to pray in the field for Hashem's help in finding his soul-mate. Hashem answered him immediately, as it says, "He raised his eyes and suddenly saw camels approaching." [24:63] Rivkah was riding on one of those camels; she had come to marry Yitzchak.
And here the Ishbitzer quotes the verse from Isaiah: "It will be that before they call I will answer. . ." (Isaiah 65:24)
The following teaching about prayer appears a number of times in the Mei Hashiloach. I hope that I understand it correctly. Why is it that some people really pray and some don't? Why is it that there are times when we are particularly inspired to pray? The Ishbitzer Rebbe says there are times when Hashem wants to give us something, everything is ready and all that is missing are our prayers. And it is especially then that we are moved to pray. Hashem wanted Yitzchak to get married at this point in his life so He inspired Him to do something about it. But he wanted to be certain that it was really Hashem's will, and so he went out into the field to meditate and to pray. Everything was ready, his soul-mate was on her way; all that was missing was that he just had to pray.
I have met other people who have had similar experiences and it happened with me too. About 14 years ago, we had moved to Israel but due to contractual obligations with Bar Ilan University I had to go back and teach in Montreal for one more year. The plan was that Judy and the kids would remain in Israel and I would come home to Yerushalayim for Sukkot, Channukah and Pessach. And then I would come back for good at the end of June. After my Chanukkah visit in Israel I called my travel agent to book my ticket for Pessach. Knowing that many people come to Israel for Pessach, I called my agent three months in advance. My principal wanted me to be back in school right after Pessach and consequently the only travel choice was to fly with KLM. Shlomo Besser, my travel agent got me a confirmed booking on the Montreal – Amsterdam, Amsterdam – Tel Aviv, Amsterdam – Montreal segments, but he could not get a seat on the Tel Aviv – Amsterdam segment because it was fully booked. Being that there still were 12 weeks left until Pessach he said not to worry as he was pretty sure that a seat would open up in time.
To make a long story short, it was already less than two weeks before Pessach and there was no seat to be had. It was also too late to get a seat on any other airline. Mammash twelve days before Pessach as I was sitting at my desk doing schoolwork at 10:00 o'clock at night, it hit me that there was a distinct possibility that I would not get to be with my family for the Seder. I stopped working for a moment and reflected on that and I was deeply moved to pray to Hashem, "Ribono Shel Olam it may be that I don't have the merit to in Eretz Yisrael for Pessach, but what about my children, Netzach and Nachman, why should they have to be without their father for the Seder? For the sake of my children and my wife, Ribono Shel Olam, please let me be with them for Pessach.
I'm not exaggerating, less than sixty seconds later the telephone rang. I picked it up, it was my travel agent. It was my travel agent and in an excited voice he said, "Shulim, I know it's late at night but I had to call you to tell you this. It's unbelievable, you have a seat. I came to the office to get some papers for a meeting that I am going to now. I picked them up, put on my winter boots and locked the office door and just as I was about to go down the stairs, a thought came to me to look at the computer screen once more to see if a seat opened up. I unlocked the office, turned on the computer and just as the KLM screen came up, mammash right in front of my eyes, a seat opened up and I grabbed it for you. B"H you now have a ticket to Eretz Yisrael for Pessach!
To tell the truth I wasn't totally surprised. Even as the phone rang, I sensed that this call was about my trip. "It will be that before they call I will answer. . ." Everything was ready, the seat was about to open up – at 10:00 pm! My travel agent was at the office – at 10:00 pm! He already had locked the office and was leaving for a meeting at 10:00 pm! Everything was ready. Only one more thing was needed - my prayers! Hodu L'hashem ki tov, ki l'olam chasdoh!
Why did she cover herself?
Verse 64: Rivkah raised her eyes and saw Yitzchok and she fell from the camel. Verse 65: She said to the servant, "Who is that man walking through the field towards us?" The servant said, "He is my master." She took the veil and covered herself.
Why did she cover herself? Besides modesty, there is another explanation. At the "bedekken" ceremonies, "why is the chosson covering the kallah's face? Because he's telling her that as beautiful as you are, my love for you is much deeper; my love for you goes back to the time when it was first announced that you and I are soul-mates; before the time that we ever saw each other in this world; my love for you is deeper than anything that can be seen in this world. Now that we are going to the Chuppah, I want to marry you with our deepest heavenly connection."